Morning Glory and some petunias
I’m just going to put in garden pictures, you’ve all seen Jordan before — though I’m gonna talk about Jordan pretty much!
My green peppers have been amazing. I also had some nice jalapenos.
If you look carefully, you can see one of my nice cucumbers hiding by the fence.
I only ended up with one small pumpkin. First time I tried it. Let the powdery mildew get away from me. Will try again next year. My only failure.
Most all the garden I grew from seed. All the morning glories and the purple petunias. The only thing I didn’t grow myself is the red petunias.
The garden this year was delightful. Not perfect but close. I want to get some garlic in next year and try pumpkins again. Tomatoes were nice, arugula, all the herbs, peppers, potatoes.
I watched him interviewed again and he definitely affirmed my lot in life. Tucker Carlson asked him if he regretted speaking out (he was a practicing psychologist and a university professor in Toronto and taught at Harvard). He of course got slammed for speaking out against cancel culture and the pronoun police and more. It resulted in his life completely changing; he achieved world recognition, made a lot of money, but also garnered a lot of attacks and harrassment. Well, first Tucker asked him if he was “happy” he’d done it.
He said he couldn’t say he was “happy.” He’d ended up losing a quiet life he loved and he dragged his family into all the hoopla. His wife went through kidney cancer and trying to cope, he had some substance problems with xanax that he has been upfront about. Though they also achieved some fame and opportunity out of it, it hasn’t been a walk in the park. Tucker rephrased it to ask him if he “regretted it.” I wish I could get this quote perfectly but I’m paraphrasing:
He said that we all have a responsibility to speak truth. That you pay for your decisions one way or another, and really the price you pay if you are not true to yourself is a bigger price–no matter the outcome. So his point is that what happens after you are true to yourself is really the only thing that can happen and that has to be ok. So in that sense, no, he could not regret it.
He had told his wife he felt he needed to speak out and she agreed and stood by him.
It was good to hear that affirmed. I’ve done just what Jordan did–though I am a nobody and have not achieved world fame–instead I lost my identity (I should say I’ve had to reinvent my identity), I was cancelled, lost my writing future at least in its first incarnation — but more important than that I lost some good friends, a mentor, and alienated some family members.
I lost a lot.
But there was no way I could have done differently.
But Jordan reminded me I could do no differently and what has happened is the only thing that could have happened if I were true to myself. And of course, I’ve tried to make a difference, small as it is. As he puts it, whatever happens after you do that is the best possible outcome.
Jordan also said that if you don’t say what you think, you kill your unborn self.
That’s how it shook out for me. Interestingly, a couple friends I thought were friends for life never even listened to a thing I said before they cut me out of their lives. Others –the situation has just strained things.
But I would answer exactly as Jordan did. Am I “happy” with what I did? No, but the alternative was something I couldn’t live with. What kind of a writer doesn’t write what they really think or say what they really think? Really, what kind of human being does that?
Some people believe there is this great virtue in diplomacy. I’m not sure that is true. Or it’s true only to a point–it’s not true when you must sell your soul so as not to ruffle a feather.
Things may not be as I wanted them, but they are exactly as they should be, the result had to be whatever it was going to be.
That’s the only point in living.
At least for me…
Sorry I’ve been somewhat missing. My dad has had pneumonia we can’t clear, my brother and sister-in-law have covid despite being vaccinated (they are doing well with hydroxy, antibody treatment, and some other therapeutics). And my husband is having some issues we’ve decided to address at Cleveland Clinic. We still haven’t settled on the vaccine, though considering it for him and my son with Down’s. But it won’t be because Mr. Biden mandated it–it’s none of his business.
Happy weekend folks. Be your true selves…